7 non-Sexual Advice from a 90-year-old

1. Mental Health

Your mental health is more important than your career, money, other people's opinion, those events you said you would attend, your partner's mood and your parent's wishes combined. If you take care of yourself means letting someone down, then let someone down.

2. Attachments

Don't attach yourself to a specific person, place, company, organization or a project. Attach yourself to a mission, vision, future and set of values. This is the best way to follow your heart and avoid getting attached to someone that isn't right for you.

3. Vulnerability

Love is a form of intimacy, and you can't have intimacy without vulnerability. If your past makes you avoid vulnerability, you'll never have intimacy. Avoiding vulnerability feels like self-defense but in the long term, it's self-harm.

4. Thoughts

Most of the harm in our head is caused by us and our thoughts. 1-5% of the harm is caused by reality, what actually happens and the outcome. Most of the time, the problem isn't the problem, it's the way we think about the problem. We can fix most of our problems just by fixing our thoughts.

5. Action

If you want to feed a problem, keep thinking about it. If you want to starve a problem, take action. Problems feeds on worry. Action kills anxiety.

6. Comparison

Nobody is as successful as social media makes them look and nobody is as beautiful as filters make them seem. The only healthy, real and worthwhile comparison is 'You Yesterday' vs 'You Today'. You'll make real progress when you focus on that.

7. Trust

Don't trust someone's words if their actions don't align. Their words will tell you what they want you to think. Their actions will tell you what they actually think.